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Girls’ Weekend

29 Oct

I’m freshly returned from an annual women’s weekend. This time the venue was southern Indiana at a house on Horseshoe Bend on the Ohio River.   Scallops, steak, and Shiraz awaited our arrival.  The inky blackness obscured our view of the river until morning.   Women with wine glasses have a tendency to talk, and talk we did into the night.

Many mornings found us bundled up against the crisp morning air, enjoying a gradually pinkening sky.  Adirondack chairs on the wrap around deck held us as we engaged in the kind of easy conversation that comes from living in close proximity.  The freedom to look your worst- hair askance, no makeup, baggy, comfy, clothes and feel accepted “as is” feels affirming.  These women whose house I shared are television personalities and partners in law firms.  Dressing appropriately is a requirement.

One of my few regrets is not experiencing dorm room life at an away college in my youth. But this gathering of women, I suspect, mimicked that experience (sans the catty competitiveness).  Rather than anxieties about grades and guys, we shared anxieties about retirement and families.  The conversations focus on the joys of a good night’s sleep rather than the ecstasy of a night of sex.  Such is the evolution from 20 to 60.  But I don’t think I would trade the sagging chest and etched facial flaws for perky boobs and nimbleness.  Like the river carving this vista, our experiences have sculpted our beings.  Our collective wisdom is hard-earned.  I’ll take that over perky tits any day.

The "Girls" at Girls Weekend

The “Girls” at Girls Weekend

Horseshoe Bend

Horseshoe Bend

 

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Om for the Holidays

18 Dec

In the United States we love celebrating occasions- Mother’s Day, Valentine’s Day, birthdays, un-birthdays, and, of course…Christmas.  Do you “occasionally” find yourself dreading those holiday hassles?

As women, we are particularly prone to feeling responsible for holidays and special occasions. We shop for the perfect gifts and spend countless hours adorning packages with colorful paper and bows; we make endless trips to the grocery store buying food for feasts; we organize tree-trimming gatherings, and climb rickety ladders retrieving lights, ornaments and wreathes to decorate inside and out.  We often spend money we don’t have in pursuit of an ideal nestled into our memories leftover from Christmases past.  Sometimes those memories don’t match the reality of the frenzy inherent in the festivities.  Now, let me be quick to add, I LOVE CHRISTMAS.  When I contemplated converting to Judaism in my former marriage, I was perfectly willing to celebrate Rosh Hashanah and spend the day fasting in quiet contemplation on Yom Kippur.  However, giving up Christmas was out of the question. But, just for the sake of this exercise, try imagining a different kind of holiday, one that might not feel as harried.  What would your ideal holiday look and feel like?Om for the holidays copy

 Meet Santa Yogi.  Santa Yogi reminds us to kick back and breathe through the frenzy of the holiday festivities.   Let this symbol serve as a visual mantra reminding you to transcend the stress and schedules and re-discover the playful side of this colorful holiday.  Namaste. Merry Christmas.  Happy Chanukah.  Happy Kwanzaa.  Happy Boxer Day.

Be Brave. Lose the Beige Blogger

11 Nov

I am thrilled to introduce our newest blogger for Be Brave. Lose the Beige, Grace Fiandaca.  Grace has worked in words all her adult life- as a library clerk in college, English teacher, writer, editor, and radio host.   She is also a Lady Boomer with two adult children with lots of wisdom to share on this subject.  We welcome her to our Be Brave. Lose the Beige online community.

Grace Fiandaca

Grace Fiandaca

Women Wear A Lot of Hats

5 Nov

My friend, Cynthia, attempted to introduce me recently to one of her friends.  I saw a slight hesitation flicker across her face as she struggled with a label for me.  This did not surprise me in the least as I, like so many Lady Boomers, wear a lot of hats.  At an average age of 60, Baby Boomer women have lived multiple roles and occupations over the course of their varied lives.

I too am confused about what to call or label myself.  I love being a Mom to my adult children; my husband and I own a market research firm conducting survey and focus group research for campaigns and companies; and I am director of the Jeremiah Project, a creative arts program for at risk kids.  But what I really love is writing this blog.  This blog is evolving into a book and accompanying journal entitled, “Be Brave. Lose the Beige”.  I’m a clay artist and enjoy creating clay sculptures, some of which illustrate this blog and book.  So what is my identity exactly?  I feel like such a hybrid of several different roles.  I think many of us Lady Boomers feel the same way.  My husband came up with a fun label for me – Claywriter.  I really love the term.  It describes at least two of my roles (clay artist and writer).  Why not try creating a fun word to describe yourself and your pursuits? Don’t let the English language limit your choices.  Post a comment to share your new found I.D.

The Hats Women Wear

The Hats Women Wear

 

Lady Boomer Survey

17 Aug

I’m a numbers junkie.  I’ve been in the survey research business for more than 25 years.  I’m interested in learning more about Lady Boomers- women of the Baby Boomer generation, so Be Brave. Lose the Beige will be conducting a survey each month targeting this demographic group.  Please click here to take a 2 question survey about employment issues.  Thank you for contributing.

Be Brave. Lose the Beige logo

Be Brave. Lose the Beige logo

Wisdom on Women from Maya Angelou

21 Feb

I love this woman wisdom from Maya Angelou

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE … by Maya Angelou

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE …
enough money within her control to move out and rent a place of her own, even if she never wants to or needs to…

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE …
something perfect to wear if the employer or date of her dreams wants to see her in an hour…

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE …
a youth she’s content to leave behind….

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE …
a past juicy enough that she’s looking forward to retelling it in her old age….

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE …
a set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra…

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE …
one friend who always makes her laugh… and one who lets her cry…

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE …
a good piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in her family…

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE …
eight matching plates, wine glasses with stems, and a recipe for a meal that will
make her guests feel honored…

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE …
a feeling of control over her destiny…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
how to fall in love without losing herself..

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
how to quit a job, break up with a lover and confront a friend without ruining the friendship…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
when to try harder… and WHEN TO WALK AWAY…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
that she can’t change the length of her calves, the width of her hips, or the nature of her parents..

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
that her childhood may not have been perfect…but it’s over…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
what she would and wouldn’t do for love or more…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW….
how to live alone… even if she doesn’t like it…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW..
whom she can trust, whom she can’t, and why she shouldn’t take it personally…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
where to go…be it to her best friend’s kitchen table or a charming Inn in the woods
when her soul needs soothing…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
What she can and can’t accomplish in a day, a month…and a year…

 

Mother Teresa Wisdom

18 Feb

I think this quote applies to a lot of women I know-

“I know God will not give me anything I can’t handle.  I just wish God didn’t trust me so much”  – Mother Teresa